By Rita Samra
Letting go seems to have been a major theme in my life. Sometimes it was a conscious choice and sometimes it just happened to me without my permission. When I did not choose it, I would rail at God, the Universe or anyone else who I decided was to blame. That was before The Science of Mind which taught me the power there is in letting go.
Catherine Ponder in ‘Open Your Mind To Receive’ says this: -
“The act of release is one of the most effective ways to open your mind to receive. The act of release frees you from tightness, tension or grasping. The act of release helps you to become an open receptive channel through which the intelligence of the universe can flow to you to cleanse your life of worn out relationships and conditions and make way for your new expanded good”
If you ever played a game of tug of war, you’ll remember that as each team pulls in the opposite direction to win the game, your body increases in tension. All the muscles in your body tighten in order not to let go. The pain in your body increases as you continue holding on. And then…...you let go – either by choice or because you’re forced to. As you let go, you may have fallen to the ground but your body thanks you for the freedom from the pain, stress, and tension of holding on.
Similarly, in our lives and within our bodies, on the other side of letting go or release is freedom. Freedom to “make way for your expanded good.” When you let go of the rope you may have fallen and had some physical pain as a result. Or your mind may have momentarily felt annoyed or resentful that you lost. In life we feel the pain of loss in the letting go too, and we can go through a process of grieving first. But how often have we been grateful in hindsight when: people or conditions we wanted to hang onto desperately, finally ended? When, who you thought was your soulmate, left you, how devastating it was.? Then later you met someone even better and more in alignment with you? Or the house of dreams fell through? And then you were glad because a month later you found an even better house which you preferred over the other one?
Change is often painful. Change also brings growth and new experiences which may never come into our experience without first releasing and letting go. When we let go of a person, condition, or thing, we are also letting go of associated emotions, feelings and, ultimately, beliefs. To give a personal example; I cared for my mother for many years before I became too ill to care for her anymore and I was forced to put her into care. For the next 2-3 years I was wracked with guilt. It was at this time I came to the Science of Mind and slowly I began to release the guilt with the insight into some of the beliefs behind these guilty feelings. Beliefs about duty and self-sacrifice as a female in my community had literally taken away my life-force.
I began to see the conditioning that had created my beliefs that others’ needs were more important than my own. The year my mother went into care, I began my year of saying “no” to anything or anyone which didn’t feel was right for me. Of course, I would go into a sweat whenever I did that. It took a severe illness to make me realise I mattered. That year was the beginning of releasing my feelings of not being worthy or important and releasing the fear of people leaving my life and ending up old and alone. A year later, as a Science of Mind Practitioner in training, I finally let go of the need to save my mother. Even whilst she was in care, I was still trying to meet her every need so that she would be happy. Of course, this created stress and more ill health. Until I understood that I was not responsible for my mother’s soul choices; that we were both on our own individual soul journeys and responsible for our own expansion of good. Releasing these beliefs began my recovery to health and making conscious choices towards my expanded good.
Catherine Ponder says about the priceless gift of release:
“First, it eliminates negativity from your life. Second, it expands your good…. Elimination not only takes something from you, but it also gives something to you……So you need never be fearful of letting go”.
Life is Cause and Effect – If we fear losing something or someone, you can be certain it will let you go. That which is truly yours can never be lost. Letting go also means living in the present moment. Living our lives ruminating over past memories or planning our future blocks our creativity, joy and growth. Living in the present moment releases the fear of letting go. Living in the present moment enables us to listen to that still quiet voice of wisdom within us that directs us to life choices that serve us.
Living in the present moment helps us to let go. When we are in the present moment, we are not remembering painful memories of the past or being attached to memories of situations and people long gone.
When we are living from moment to moment we stop worrying about the future. Then we can become powerful co-creators with that divine spark within us instead of becoming a hostage to our ego minds. As Louise Hay says, “the point of power is always in the present.” The answer, the strength, the right action will be there when you need it – not before, not after. When we let go, we allow space to hear the answer.
We are going through times right now that we could never have imagined. The whole world is changing and learning to navigate life through uncertainty. Our whole fear-based human tendency to want to control things, people and situations has gone for a toss. We are learning to let go of much of what we knew and expected. In that letting go I see numerous examples of humanity coming together, honouring, being kind and helping each other. Celebrities are no longer glamorised and what we are aspiring to be. Our heroes have become ordinary folk doing ordinary and extraordinary things. Our true natures are coming to the forefront. The air is cleaner; animals, mammals, and other natural life is being seen where humans dominated on the earth. Many are re-evaluating their lives and making choices accordingly. Out of the pain of letting go and uncertainty we are being forced to live in the present moment – and discovering love, freedom, inner peace, choice and who we truly are.
I’ll leave you with this from the 84 verses of the Tao Te Ching: -
“Become totally empty
Let your heart be at peace
Amidst the rush of worldly comings and goings
Observe how endings become beginnings”
Rita is a qualified Science of Mind Practitioner, Counsellor and Reiki Healer. She is based in London and may be contacted at firstname.lastname@example.org.